Monday, May 2, 2011

salad will have to wait

cucumber radish salad

I was going to write about salad tonight. But it’ll have to wait until another day – because this here today needs its own place, and not be an afterthought to a recipe. And because I have a habit of really burying the lede, I didn’t want to be guilty of that today. This is important – it’s a biggie.

I don’t quite know how to write this any differently, so I’m just going to come out and say it – two nights ago, Andrew and I got engaged. There, I said it. I’m engaged!

Engaged to a lovely, incredible man, who makes me swoon when I see his face early in the morning and who makes my heart swell with love when we fall asleep. In the year we’ve been together (almost a year!) he’s made my life richer and brighter than I could ever imagine. He inspired me to take that career altering leap – he believed and continues to believe in me. An editor, a taster, a sous-chef, dishwashing helper, avid eater of desserts (particularly of the apple persuasion) – he is my best friend, my cheer leader, my partner-in-crime. And here’s the best part, he doesn’t just come alone – he comes with the most amazing family a girl can hope for. I feel like I won the family lottery – which is the best kind of lottery there is, right?

Life is kind of funny sometimes – and what a difference a year can make!

A year ago, to the day, I broke up with someone who, while is probably a very nice person, wasn’t a very nice boyfriend. Or rather he wasn’t a very nice boyfriend (for whatever reasons) to me. And so I ended it. The day after my birthday. And to make it even more official, since I was in a mood to celebrate the putting-my-foot-down event, I tweeted something to the extent of what I was looking forward to eating with my next boyfriend: cheese, butter, sour cream, pulled pork sandwiches, pizza, and bacon. Three days later, Andrew walked into my life (or rather re-walked, but that’s a story for another day). A few whirlwind weeks of dating (and keeping our relationship secret from everyone) cemented our relationship. Then after a trip to Florida in June, we pretty much were inseparable, living in two apartments, taking our duffels with us every few days. In January, we moved in together – Andrew traded his midtown digs for Brooklyn. And last Saturday night, after a daylong walk in the city, a stop for bahn mi, some chocolate along the way, a stunning meal at ABC Kitchen, and hours before I turned 33, Andrew, in the privacy and solitude of our apartment, proposed – and I accepted.

It was a quiet and low-key proposal, just the two of us sitting on our couch. I cried, and, according to Andrew, I made up words amidst all the excitement. Can you blame me?

And I always said that the right person for you will always make you feel like the superhero version of yourself. And that’s how I feel around Andrew. On days when my superhero cape needs mending, and my confidence is shaken, he renews my faith in myself. I’m floored every time with how much he believes in me.

They say that when you know, you know. I never thought I’d be the girl that knew. I was always careful and doubtful. I never had that feeling of certainty until Andrew. But I knew very early on with him. And it’s impossible to explain how I knew. It just felt like the most right thing in the world. Everything, suddenly, made sense. I felt grounded and certain and calm. Finally, I wasn’t a beat behind the world – I was in sync with it. I still pinch myself every morning and every night I count my blessings.

And so – a new chapter begins. I’m marrying my best friend. And I’m so glad I can share these good news with all of you.

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103 Comments

  • 1
    Whitney said:

    OMG CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Enjoy this moment before you get into wedding planning. It really is magical.

    He did good on the ring :)

    May 2, 2011 10:46 pm
  • 2

    I’m so, so, so happy for you both. And I love that you made up words. My husband tells me I asked him “are you kidding? are you serious?!?!” about 15 times before saying yes… although I don’t remember doing that. Now on to the fun stuff – planning the party!

    May 2, 2011 10:46 pm
  • 3

    Congratulations to you both! What wonderful news!

    May 2, 2011 10:47 pm
  • 4
    Maria said:

    Congratulations!

    May 2, 2011 10:48 pm
  • 5
    Nicole said:

    Congratulations! Lovely story, lovely ring.

    May 2, 2011 10:50 pm
  • 6
    Sara M said:

    OMG! I’m so excited for you! Congrats! I love your ring :)

    May 2, 2011 10:50 pm
  • 7

    CONGRATS! Fantastic news. I love you thoughts on how he makes you feel like a superhero. I love your line about marrying your best friend. I love this post! So happy for you!

    May 2, 2011 10:51 pm
  • 8
    Molly said:

    Mazel Tov!

    Your ring is amazing, but I am sure nowhere near as incredible as the man who gave it to you. Here’s to a life full of desserts, clean dishes and a best friend to share in both.

    May 2, 2011 10:52 pm
  • 9
    Sharmila said:

    The ring is beautiful! Congratulations Olga! It’s so sweet, your proposal story! Wishing you the very best!

    May 2, 2011 10:53 pm
  • 10
    Laura said:

    Congratulations, Olga! What a beautiful story.

    May 2, 2011 10:55 pm
  • 11

    Congratulations! What a beautiful story!!
    Wishing you both a wonderful life ahead and all the luck in the world.

    May 2, 2011 11:00 pm
  • 12
    Peggy said:

    I’ve only been following your blog for a short time but would like to wish you a long and wonderful life together! Congratulations and all the best wishes for a life of joy and happiness with your best friend!!! ~Peggy

    May 2, 2011 11:00 pm
  • 13
    Leela said:

    (squeal) Congratulations, Olga! So happy for you! (And, man, that is one gorgeous ring.)

    May 2, 2011 11:02 pm
  • 14
    Jessica said:

    Congratulations! I love your ring!

    May 2, 2011 11:03 pm
  • 15
    Lana said:

    Congratulations! Your story made me tear up, but in the nicest way. I am an incorrigible romantic:)
    I wish you both the best!

    May 2, 2011 11:03 pm
  • 16
    Maggie said:

    Oooooh! Congrats! How fantastic! So happy for you guys.

    May 2, 2011 11:18 pm
  • 17
    Robert S. said:

    YAY! Congratulations!!!! Best of everything for the two of you!

    May 2, 2011 11:21 pm
  • 18
    kate said:

    Congrats! What a sweet story. I absolutely love your ring!

    May 2, 2011 11:21 pm
  • 19
    Marisa said:

    Oh Olga! I am so, so thrilled for you! So many congratulations to you and Andrew!

    May 2, 2011 11:26 pm
  • 20
    Winnie said:

    So happy for you Olga! One of these days I will meet you in person and give you a real congrats hug :)

    May 2, 2011 11:31 pm
  • 21

    Congratulations to the both of you, my friend! I am soo glad to know that the perfect couple that I met at BlogHer last year will be getting married!

    May 2, 2011 11:32 pm
  • 22
    Ashley said:

    What a beautiful post! Congratulations friend. I couldn’t be happier for you. Salad will wait, for now it’s Champagne!

    May 2, 2011 11:33 pm
  • 23
    rachel said:

    That’s wonderful news! My husband and I met and then got married exactly one year after our first date. When you know, you know!

    May 2, 2011 11:38 pm
  • 24
    nicole said:

    Yes. Yes always to knowing.

    And — congratulations!!!! Many best wishes on your life together.

    May 2, 2011 11:44 pm
  • 25
    Kristen said:

    So exciting. Much congrats to you! Have fun planning the wedding and more importantly, your life together! Beautiful ring.

    May 2, 2011 11:45 pm
  • 26
    Carol said:

    What a beautiful and sweet story~ many many congrats to you!! He really did good on that ring too!

    May 2, 2011 11:54 pm
  • 27
    Claire said:

    Great news! You sound deliriously happy which is the perfect way to be so hooray and hope that the magic never fades!!!

    May 3, 2011 12:34 am
  • 28
    Kasey said:

    Oh, Olga. They always come into our lives when we least expect them to. Congrats on the wonderful news! Gorgeous ring to boot :)

    May 3, 2011 12:36 am
  • 29
    rachel said:

    congratulations! such a beautiful story (and one of the most gorgeous rings i’ve ever seen!)

    May 3, 2011 12:39 am
  • 30
    baa said:

    Congratulations for having found your best friend !!

    May 3, 2011 1:42 am
  • 31
    Egle said:

    Congrats for you 2! Wish you all the best.
    Almost a funny thing – my future husband proposed me exactly a year ago :)

    May 3, 2011 1:53 am
  • 32
    kickpleat said:

    oh my goodness!!!! Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both! What a gorgeous ring and a lovely story. And as I read, my C proposed to me also after a fantastic day out in the solitude of our apartment as well. Yay, I’m nearly teary eyed!

    May 3, 2011 3:02 am
  • 33
    James said:

    Congratulations!!!

    May 3, 2011 3:38 am
  • 34
    Mary said:

    Wow! What a year. I’m so happy for you.

    May 3, 2011 4:31 am
  • 35
    Juanita said:

    Woot!! Congratulations! Great story :-) Great RING!!!

    May 3, 2011 6:15 am
  • 36
    Jess said:

    Olga! Yes! So thrilled for you both that you (re-)found each other. The happiest of birthdays to you, indeed!

    May 3, 2011 6:25 am
  • 37
    Anna said:

    I love this post! Congratulations!! Beautiful ring:)

    May 3, 2011 7:39 am
  • 38
    Renee said:

    We’re thrilled to be able to share your engagement with you too! Congratulations and best wishes to the future Mr. & Mrs.!! :)

    May 3, 2011 7:48 am
  • 39
    ben said:

    what a lovely story! congrats and best wishes to you both.

    May 3, 2011 7:52 am
  • 40
    bridget said:

    Congratulations~! Beautiful ring!

    May 3, 2011 8:02 am
  • 41
    Brandee said:

    From a complete stranger, a world away : Congratulations! It is always wonderful to see someone happy.

    May 3, 2011 8:04 am
  • 42
    JenniferA said:

    Congratulations! Beautiful words, beautiful ring. Best wishes for a beautiful life together.

    May 3, 2011 8:12 am
  • 43
    Radish said:

    Everyone who has commented thusfar – THANK YOU!!! You make my heart swell with even MORE joy than I already feel. Hugs to all!!

    May 3, 2011 8:17 am
  • 44
    carolyn said:

    congrats! that’s an amazing story, and you summed it up so beautifully.

    May 3, 2011 8:17 am
  • 45

    Congratulations! It is truly a wonderful thing to marry your soul mate…I know the feeling. Best of luck to both of you.

    May 3, 2011 8:39 am
  • 46
    Lisa said:

    Woo hoo! This is such wonderful news! Congratulations to both of you!

    May 3, 2011 8:48 am
  • 47
    Beth said:

    Hi! Congrats! De-lurking to say, HOW WONDERFUL! I’ve been reading your blog over the last year and so even though you have never heard of me before, I was so excited to hear your news and even got a little teary :) I mean that in a totally non-creepy way.

    May 3, 2011 8:58 am
  • 48

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful news with us. The ring is gorgeous! Congratulations to you both.

    May 3, 2011 8:59 am
  • 49

    Congratulations Olga and Andrew!!
    I wish you both all the best! Your ring looks beautiful :)
    Magda

    May 3, 2011 9:16 am
  • 50
    Kristin said:

    Congratulations! Such exciting news (and certainly worth postponing a salad)!

    May 3, 2011 9:24 am
  • 51

    this is probably the 10th time i’ve said this, but congratulations!

    May 3, 2011 9:31 am
  • 52
    Martha Joy said:

    This:
    “On days when my superhero cape needs mending, and my confidence is shaken, he renews my faith in myself. I’m floored every time with how much he believes in me. ”
    This made me cry with joy. Thank you for sharing, and congratulations!

    May 3, 2011 9:38 am
  • 53

    Congratulations! I wish you both all the best!

    May 3, 2011 10:10 am
  • 54
    MizDahlia said:

    Congratulations, Olga! Lovely, lovely, lovely.

    May 3, 2011 10:23 am
  • 55
    Julie said:

    Wow – congratulations to you both!! How exciting!!

    May 3, 2011 11:12 am
  • 56
    Sara said:

    Congratulations!

    May 3, 2011 11:23 am
  • 57

    Very sweet! Congratulations. Worth waiting over the salad recipe. Although, it does look mighty tasty…..

    May 3, 2011 11:28 am
  • 58
    Rick said:

    You say that you don’t know how you knew, but, you knew!
    Don’t try to explain it. I just knew 54yrs ago, now I’ve been married for 51yrs to my still best friend.
    CONGRATULATIONS!!! AND BEST OF LUCK ALWAYS.

    May 3, 2011 11:31 am
  • 59
    Chez Us said:

    Congratulations! I have goosebumps on my arms, and tears of joy being held back. Very happy for you. Happy you found a good man. A good friend. A good lover. A soul-mate. Much happiness always.

    May 3, 2011 11:43 am
  • 60

    OH MY GOODNESS! CONGRATS! This is just so wonderful! Wedding planning is so much fun! Enjoy it all!

    May 3, 2011 12:01 pm
  • 61
    MIchelle said:

    YAY!!! So excited for you! I could feel it coming reading your posts :) Wish you best of luck!

    May 3, 2011 12:38 pm
  • 62
    Juliya said:

    Wow….you said it so beautifully!! I’m soo happy for you both!!!

    May 3, 2011 1:32 pm
  • 63
    Lyssa said:

    I just found your blog a few weeks ago, and have been enjoying it ever so much.
    I am just SO happy for you and Andrew for your engagement.

    Blessings upon both of you from this NY born Jew!

    May 3, 2011 3:23 pm
  • 64
    Ruth said:

    Wow, wow, wow, wow, wow! That’s a pretty good excuse to make the salad wait! Congratulations!

    May 3, 2011 3:40 pm
  • 65
    Arezou said:

    Congratulations to you both!! I am so happy for you. It is truly wonderful when you find your best friend in the whole world :)

    May 3, 2011 3:41 pm
  • 66
    Christine said:

    I am late to this party: CONGRATULATIONS! I’m so happy for you both. (Also, wowza on a gorgeous ring.)

    May 3, 2011 4:08 pm
  • 67

    So wonderful, Olga–I’m delighted for you! I especially love how you describe your relationship. How special, how lucky. I am cheering for you both on the west coast.

    May 3, 2011 4:51 pm
  • 68
    Allison said:

    Congrats congrats congrats! So exciting! Loved reading about your story together. What a lovely post. :)

    May 3, 2011 6:35 pm
  • 69
    Lydia said:

    Your blog post is practically shimmering with happiness, and even though we haven’t met, I’m delighted for you. Wishing you both a lifetime of happiness. (Love the ring, btw!)

    May 3, 2011 6:41 pm
  • 70
    Katie said:

    Congratulations, what a sweet story! Cheers to your engagement!

    May 3, 2011 6:52 pm
  • 71
    Foodiebia said:

    Congratulations! I am so happy for you. I know what it’s like to meet your husband and just “know.” He sounds like a great guy for you!

    May 3, 2011 7:20 pm
  • 72

    Happy for you! Congrats. Chocolate and bacon are always deal breakers.

    May 3, 2011 8:32 pm
  • 73
    Elinor L. said:

    Oh I am so happy to get this news! I’ve known Andrew since he was in utero, so I confirm, endorse, cheer, celebrate and toast this wonderful announcement. And such a beautiful way to tell the world. xoxo

    May 3, 2011 9:36 pm
  • 74

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    May 3, 2011 10:12 pm
  • 75
    Caneel said:

    Congratulations! The ring is beautiful!

    May 3, 2011 11:00 pm
  • 76
    Christy said:

    I guess I have never commented before although I have been following your blog for what seems like forever. This past summer, I summoned the guts to drive to the home of the man of my dreams and, as chance would have it, he was outside, readying himself to go Somewhere. We locked eyes while my car was idling on the street, I pulled into the driveway and, well, we’ve been inseparable since. (He calls me The Infiltrator because I moved in “sometime” and have ever so slowly influenced our household. But in a good way (I have this laundry obsession). Life cannot be better than being with The Best Friend one can have, can it?)

    Congratulations! And, whoa! What a nice surprise! All my best to the two of you.

    May 3, 2011 11:01 pm
  • 77
    Charlotte said:

    What wonderful news (although not that surprising given how you talk about him here). Congratulations to you both. Enjoy these wonderful and exciting days. And thanks for posting your excitement – it is such fun to share in good news. And takes me back to my own engagement.

    May 3, 2011 11:06 pm
  • 78
    Mila said:

    Dear Olenka, Congratulations on your engagement! It’s the best story!
    With all good wishes to both of you, Love, Mila, Marik,Juliya, Ilya.

    May 4, 2011 1:05 am
  • 79
    kim said:

    Congratulations! That brought a smile on my face :)

    May 4, 2011 5:57 am
  • 80
    Kristen said:

    Congratulations on your engagement! Thank you for sharing!

    May 4, 2011 7:47 am
  • 81
    Yale said:

    I’m so glad that you like the ring! One of the great privileges and pleasures of being in the diamond and jewelry business is to a part of other people’s joyous occasions.

    May 4, 2011 9:56 am
  • 82
    Grace said:

    That’s wonderful. I love what you said about the right person making you feel like a better version of yourself. True! I’ve been with the right one for me for 13 years and now and I’m going to pass on to you the best wedding advice you will ever get and the only wedding advice I got that was really useful…

    Don’t f*** it up.

    Yes, it’s that simple, when you get right down to it. Keep it at the front of your brain ready to go. When you are about to say something nasty in exasperation, or do something you know will hurt his feelings, or when you are about to put your foot wrong in a more serious way, just refer back to that.

    Congrats to you both!

    May 4, 2011 10:26 am
  • 83
    Dianne said:

    Just simply congratulations. Bask in this happiness and enjoy every moment.

    May 4, 2011 12:47 pm
  • 84
    jordan said:

    over the last few months i’ve become such a fan of your site. i’m so happy for your engagement! i’ve been through almost the same exact situation this past year {without the proposal, we’re still in college :)} so i can totally relate. just shows that you trusted your gut and made the right decision. congrats!

    May 4, 2011 2:39 pm
  • 85
    Nina said:

    Congratulations! what a great news!!! and I was expected that this should happen very soon!

    May 4, 2011 3:30 pm
  • 86
    Mariya said:

    What beautiful words. Wow, what a gorgeous ring. Congrats!

    May 4, 2011 5:02 pm
  • 87
    Anne said:

    From your old travel friend, warmest wishes on your latest tasty adventure, cook up somthing good in and outside the kitchen! Love, Annie

    May 4, 2011 8:51 pm
  • 88
    emiglia said:

    Gorgeous ring, beautiful story, congratulations and warmest wishes to you both! I look forward to reading even more stories about the two of you and your adventures in food, life and love together.

    May 5, 2011 8:03 am
  • 89
    Rachel said:

    Beautiful post! Brought tears to my eyes :) CONGRATS, very exciting time for the both of you!

    May 5, 2011 10:54 am
  • 90
    Radish said:

    Yale – thank you so much for your comment!! And yes, you’re in a joyful business indeed!! The ring is lovely, though I would’ve been happy with just anything, I am a lucky lady!

    May 5, 2011 11:01 am
  • 91
    Farah said:

    I have been following your blog since I discovered your rice pudding with coconut milk recipe (it made my Valentine’s day extra special and has been a big hit at family gatherings-thank you!). I was anxiously awaiting your next post when I saw the wonderful news-Congratulations!! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story and stunning ring! Warmest wishes for a fabulous life together filled with love, happiness and delicious adventures!

    May 7, 2011 8:12 am
  • 92
    Kimberley said:

    What a story! Many congratulations to you.

    May 7, 2011 1:32 pm
  • 93
    Donna said:

    Awwe! Such a sweet story, I almost started crying at work! Thank you for sharing, and I wish you both many happy days together!

    May 9, 2011 4:42 pm
  • 94
    Lori said:

    Beautiful story. You are right. When you know, you know. Sounds like you have a solid foundation for a beautiful, long-lasting relationship. Many best wishes and congratulations!

    May 12, 2011 8:44 pm
  • 95
    Christina said:

    Congratulations, sounds like a match made in heaven!

    May 17, 2011 11:27 am
  • 96

    Olga!!! This is such great news – congratulations! Enjoy your engagement, your wonderful fiance (soon to be husband!), and hitting the family lotto! There is no better lottery to win than that!

    p.s. your ring is stunning!

    May 20, 2011 4:17 pm
  • 97

    Congratulations! So great when you hold out for the perfect person – it makes all the difference in the world. Life is too short to be with the wrong person. Loved your story.

    May 22, 2011 3:46 pm
  • 98
    Esther said:

    I couldnt stop reading your post. Im so very happy for you, and hope one day i ‘know’ just like you ‘knew’ when you found mr right.

    May 24, 2011 5:24 am
  • 99
    Jenn said:

    Congratulations to you both! This is the sweetest and best engagement story I’ve ever read…it left me in a limbo between tears and uncontrollable smiles.

    June 6, 2011 12:33 pm
  • 100

    Congratulations!!!

    June 14, 2011 1:03 pm
  • 101

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  • 102

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  • 103
    Martine said:

    Thank you for sharing your story – it’s so beautiful and exactly what I am hoping to happen for myself. I wish you both a life together full of love and happiness, although it sounds like you already have it.

    August 21, 2012 1:30 pm

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